Relationship Rules

This difficult economy has affected all of us in one way or another.  While we need a steady income to survive financially, we also need each other to survive emotionally.  Our need to survive emotionally is best met when we treat each another with kindness and respect.  Why?  Because when someone is kind and respectful toward us, we suddenly feel visible.  We deserve to be here and their kindness validates our presence — which in turn, inspires us to give back or pay it forward.

Life is a circle.  What we give to others is returned to us.  It is the cycle of life–the golden rule.  Decide to treat each other with kindness and respect, regardless of gender, age or occupation.

Take the time to sincerely appreciate another’s efforts. Tell someone when they’ve made your life a little easier.  Do something kind for someone who isn’t expecting it.  Say something to someone that only you can say.  Be the best you that you can be.  You can help another survive, just by sharing your love.  What are you waiting for?

Do you ever wonder when you look in the mirror what you would see if you could see yourself as others see you?  Would you see your face, or your body, or would you see all of who you are?  You are so much more than what you see when you look at the outside.  Who you are lives on the inside.  Who you are has been wonderfully and miraculously created.  There is nothing wrong with you or any part of you.  You are designed to be unique, talented, and lovable.

Let this be your affirmation today.  I am unique, talented and lovable. Take it from affirmation to declaration.  Say it to your family.  Email it to your friends.  Write it in a journal.  Put it on post-it notes and put them where you’ll see them.  If you want to go even deeper, say it in front of your mirror.  In fact, say it 10 times.  Notice how your voice changes as you do.
Say it everyday. You are unique.  You are talented.  You are lovable.  All is well.

Did you know it is okay to make mistakes?  Mistakes are natural.  We were designed to make mistakes because, used correctly, they help us grow.  Why?  Because every time we make a mistake, there is a lesson to be learned.  When we learn from our mistakes, we reap the benefit.  Each mistake (lesson) grows our character which is a benefit to us and to our soul development.

Don’t be afraid to make a mistake, instead be afraid of “trying to be perfect”.  We would never grow if that were the case.  Look forward and embrace each day, knowing that whenever you make a mistake, you are growing on the inside.   When you change your perception, your life will change from a struggle to an adventure.  The authentic you will have room to blossom.

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Faith is a powerful tool, often misunderstood or brushed aside like a candy ~~ sounds and tastes good, but what will it really do for you?  It will get you from point A to point B.  It will give you eyes from which to see anew.  Faith will restore your trust in yourself, and in others.  Faith will bring you closer to God or whatever you choose to call your higher power.  Faith within you will grow and find its way, through you to another, restoring faith in themselves.

Never under estimate the power of faith.  It’s your admission to trust, for you cannot trust if you don’t have faith.  What feeds your faith?  What gives you hope?  Where is your peace?  In order to have faith, hope and peace, begin by releasing your fears.

Each time your release a fear, you restore your faith.  Exhale fear, breathe in faith.  Exhale guilt, breathe in trust.  Release doubt, breathe in confidence.  Release confusion, breathe in divine guidance. Release your heartache and surrender to the One who is breathing your breath right now, then breathe in peace.

You and I are divine beings, taking up this place and time for reasons not yet revealed to us.  Trust your intuition — your still small voice.  Walk the path less traveled.  Its destination is your heart’s desire.  It is your homecoming.  Welcome Home.

Change is a constant, reliable force in our lives.  Our life is changing all the time.  As we go about our daily life, the unexpected happens. Try as we may, we can’t avoid it.   The good news is we can embrace it.  Change is an invitation to not let our circumstances control us.  It is an opportunity to lift  ourself up, act with integrity, and move forward.  What will you choose?

The things in life that matter most become clear to us when we are faced with hard decisions.  When someone says or does something out of the ordinary, how will you respond?  When you receive news that is upsetting, what will you do?  You response will determine the outcome.  Use those moments to learn and grow  — for yourself and for those around you.

What will you do different today?  Before you decide, review your options.  Then pick the one that is kind, is necessary and best for everyone involved.