When we hold someone to a certain expectation, we set ourselves up for disappointment. There will be times they are not sensitive to our needs. Expecting to get all your needs met from one person is not realistic or reasonable. Understanding this concept can make a big difference in your life.

It is a fact in life — people will irritate us. We have the choice of interacting with them or not. If we choose to have them in our lives, it is helpful to remember they are not perfect. Sooner or later, they will disappoint us. We will disappoint them. It happens without our intent. Who do you hold to a certain expectation? What expectations do you have with this person? Write down five.

As human beings we make mistakes. This person would not be in your life if you hadn’t been attracted to their good qualities and characteristics. Take time and focus on their good qualities. What were they? Write down ten.

If we don’t deal with our disappointments, they turns into resentment. Overcome disappointment by focusing on what is working in your life. Replace disappointment and resentment with forgiveness — for yourself and your friend, partner or coworker. Remember we all have our quirks and habits. Deep down we all just want to do what is right and be a good person. Focus on the good and you will draw out that good in others.