Have you ever wondered, “Did he hear me or is he ignoring me?” Women often wonder why, sometimes when they ask their partner a question, there is a long pause. Most women say they have experienced this long pause after asking a question. What is that “pause” all about, you ask? It has to do with the way our brains are wired as men and women.

This is the deal–if you want your partner, or any man for that matter, to not only hear, but listen to what you have to say, make sure you have his attention.

In my book Relationship Rules, Rule #1 says: “Help your partner be successful in making you happy.” This can also be interpreted as “Help your partner hear what you have to say.” Try writing on a stickie note what you want him to remember. Write it on a dry erase board or chalk board. If he has a tangible place to read your message, there is a better chance he will follow through.

Your partner will appreciate your efforts to help him be successful. When he is successful and it involves you, he is motivated to make you happy and return the favor—-so make sure you have your “wish list” handy.