Do you ever feel like giving up? That life isn’t fair? We have all felt this way at one time or another. Despite our efforts, we can’t get life to move in the direction we want it to go. We want life to look one way, but that isn’t our experience.

Resisting what is happening, versus what we want, will only intensify those negative feelings. Don’t fight what isn’t working. Don’t waste precious time by making a list of why you are right or why it should be different. Instead, just for a moment, try to look at it from another perspective. Is there another way of looking at this problem? How could it be different than how you are perceiving it? When you can, practice the art of non-resistance.

Do you ever notice that when you reflect back on the hardest times of your life, that was when you experienced the most growth? It was what made you stronger, it humbled you, and molded you into the person you are today. Celebrate that. Give yourself a pat on the back. You are still here…and you’ve come a long way, baby!

Those are magic words……especially for a woman. When a woman hears someone offer help by saying, “How can I help you?”, her burdens suddenly become lighter. Why? Because when a woman hears the possibility that help is on its way, she is suddenly aware that she doesn’t have to do everything herself, and she can relax. She will feel better just because someone asked and showed interest.

When this happens, the “feel-good” hormone, ocytocin, is released in her body causing serotonin to be produced in her brain, all allowing her to relax and let go. In order for a woman to relax, she needs to let go of what is bothering her.

What are the magic words that help you relax? Share with your partner, and the people in your life, what you need to hear. What words or phrase would be helpful for them to say to you when you need to relax or when you want some encouragement and support?

That is why we are here — to help each other — so get busy. Tell the people in your life what you need. And instead of waiting for it, be supportive to another and watch how fast it comes back.