December has been a busy month and many of us encountered stressed out or impatient people. Maybe we were impatient ourselves. We know we should take time to relax but we keep our nose to the grindstone, and our relationships and bodies take the brunt of it. In the process, we can lose site of our priorities — the very reasons why we work so hard.

Right now think of something that brings you joy. Hold that thought and take in a deep breath. Exhale any worrisome thoughts. Take in three deep breaths using this technique. Can you feel the difference? Are you more relaxed? And it took less than one minute.

Here’s another way to use this technique: Think a thought of gratitude. The one I like to use is, “My body is healthy and strong. I am grateful for my health.” While holding that thought, breathe in deeply. Exhale while imagining any stress leaving your body through your breath.

Why not add this to your list of new year’s resolutions? It is easy to do and it only take a minute.

May 2008 be your best year yet!

We are born with a need to belong, to feel connected. We are born with the need to feel loved and the desire to love another. This holiday season is a sacred time and within it a special opportunity for you to express your feelings.

Whenever we speak kindly with someone, when we touch another affectionately, we are bonding and satisfying our deepest need to belong. How can you feel a sense of belonging? Extend yourself to another. Pay a compliment, bring someone a warm drink, tell someone you care even if you think they already know. Help someone feel included by extending an invitation to join you and your family. These are all ways to nurture yours and others need to belong.

Maybe your beloved needs to be reminded they are an important part of your life. They may be patiently waiting for you say, “I love you” this holiday season. As women, we have a need to hear the words, it just isn’t romantic if we ask. As men, we forget how important this is to the woman we love.

Whenever when you lovingly include others in your life, you truly are spreading holiday cheer!