We are born with a need to belong, to feel connected. We are born with the need to feel loved and the desire to love another. This holiday season is a sacred time and within it a special opportunity for you to express your feelings.

Whenever we speak kindly with someone, when we touch another affectionately, we are bonding and satisfying our deepest need to belong. How can you feel a sense of belonging? Extend yourself to another. Pay a compliment, bring someone a warm drink, tell someone you care even if you think they already know. Help someone feel included by extending an invitation to join you and your family. These are all ways to nurture yours and others need to belong.

Maybe your beloved needs to be reminded they are an important part of your life. They may be patiently waiting for you say, “I love you” this holiday season. As women, we have a need to hear the words, it just isn’t romantic if we ask. As men, we forget how important this is to the woman we love.

Whenever when you lovingly include others in your life, you truly are spreading holiday cheer!