Relationship Rules

Our personality is what makes us who we are—unique.  At any time, we are either contributing to our personality, or our character, either positively or negatively.  Positively contributing to our personality may be paying attention to our personal growth, nourishing our spiritual relationship, or being a positive role model for others.

When we are under stress, we are donating our precious time and energy to something that will never serve us. Our thoughts contaminate our mind telling us we are not good enough, not deserving.  Our body doesn’t feel like moving much. We miss out on the opportunity to be happy and to make other happy. Our attention and focus are debilitating, rather than liberating.

What do you want for your life? Are you building your character?  Are you encouraging others? Are you giving of yourself as only you can?  Don’t blame your circumstances, change them.  Don’t blame your partner, change your attitude.  Don’t beat yourself up, change your mindset.  As a wise person said, “It is not our circumstances that make us miserable, it is our thoughts about our circumstances.”

Declare who you are and who you will be — I am successful, kind, loving, strong, giving, safe, loved, healthy, and wise.  Use the words that feel the best for you. Say them out loud. Say them in front of the mirror.  Say them boldly and with passion.  Your reality is determined by your thoughts and words.  Choose them wisely.

We all have experienced adversity and difficulty.  Maybe through the loss a loved one, someone who betrayed our trust, or because a job ended.  During these times, it is easy to become negative and lose our motivation for life.  It is during these times when we need to look inside for strength and ask ourself, “How do I want to react to this problem?  To this person?”.

Your whole life has prepared you for who you now define yourself to be.  Your past has prepared you for today.  How do you define yourself?  Inside of you is strength and vision.  Instead of reacting to that person or situation, stop.  First, decide how you want to react.  Your reaction will determine what happens next.

Even though unfair things happen to us and we can’t find a “good enough” explanation, remember in time, things work together for our good. We don’t always know what is the bigger picture is for our life.  Remind yourself everyday to look for the good in your life.  Look for the good in others.  As you do, your focus will become more positive. You will see goodness naturally because you have trained your mind to do so.  As a result, your choices will model your positive attitude.  When that happens, your mere presence will motivate others.

Do you ever feel like a part of your life has stagnated?  Have you stopped doing something you love.  Stopped asking for what you want?  In the busy lives we lead, just doing what needs to be done takes up a lot of our time.  Making time for what we want must be accomplished on purpose—and with purpose.

Take a moment and ask yourself what have you kept yourself from doing.  What have you denied yourself because you didn’t take the time?  Remember back on how it made you feel when you did make time.  Maybe it was when you were in an exercise routine or when you spent time in daily meditation.  Was it a hobby you loved?  Allow that memory to come to life in your mind.

Are you willing to recommit to your desire?  Find that place inside you that knows no regret  I bet you can.  Once you find that place inside yourself, go get a drink of water.  Drink it and imagine yourself watering your dream.  It will grow, especially if you tend to it often.

Happy Spring-happy rebirth.

There is a plan for each and every one of us. We are not randomly put here in this place at this time to just exist. We have many purposes for being here. We have much to experience and an unlimited potential to grow and expand.

Sometimes it may feel like we are just existing, just going through the motions, doing what we need to do, have to do, and ignoring the things we want to do. Even at those times, there is a divine plan at work in our lives. Knowing this, we can relax and give up feeling the need to be in control.

The best way to alieviate stress is to do something nice for someone. Pay an unexpected compliment, thank someone for their efforts, give something away. Your kind words or a hug can make such a difference in someone’s life. Our giving is reciprocal, and to the degree that it affects another, it affects us too.

As you go through your day, be aware of divine timing. Acknowledge it. Don’t discount it as just a coincidence. Let it confirm for you that all things happen in their own time and in their own way, and many times better than we could have ever imagined.