Relationship Rules

Spring is here and summer is just around the corner. Time seems to be flying by faster and faster. Are you taking time out from the busyness of your life to rejuvenate and recharge your energies? Women are good at taking care of others and often put off taking care of themselves until everyone else’s needs are met. Here are some tips for living a life in balance:

For Men: Remind your partner to take some time for herself to relax. This is good for several reasons. First, you will score points for thinking of her well-being and encouraging her. Second, if she takes time for herself to relax, your communication is easier. In addition, reminding her that she is a role model for her children, (if applicable), could be a good prompter. When she feels more in balance with herself, she will be healthier, feel happier and be more understanding.

For Women: Be as good to yourself as you are to others. You deserve the same treatment. Indulge yourself in the things that bring you joy and pleasure. If your partner encourages you to take time out for yourself, tell him know how much you appreciate his support. This will encourage him to continue being supportive. Having our partner, or even a friend, remind us that we deserve time to relax, may be just the little nudge we need, so don’t miss an opportunity to express your appreciation.

Whether you are a man or a woman, living a life in balance doesn’t happen by accident. Be in charge of how you spend your time, who you spend it with and how much energy you reserve for yourself. No one will do it for you. Be the cause in your life and not at the effect of what happens. You will reap the benefits. You will create healthy habits. You will feel good.

Be Yourself

One built-in desire we all have is to be loved; to be accepted and appreciated for who we are. When someone likes us, does business with us, or wants to spend time with us, it is because they are drawn to our personality. We don’t have to change who we are to be acceptable, to be loved. We are perfect just the way we are. Are so are the people around us.

The best way to receive is to give. Today, show someone you approve of them, you accept them for who they are. Tell them they don’t have to change–that you love them no matter what happens. Tell your children you are glad they were born. Give a compliment to a stranger or a friendly smile to a child. Then go look in the mirror and tell yourself the same thing. See yourself as a person who deserves the best of everything. Notice how good it feels. Make this a daily habit and see your life change.

Let yourself blossom during this rebirth of Spring. Allow your personality to be heard and seen.

When we hold someone to a certain expectation, we set ourselves up for disappointment. There will be times they are not sensitive to our needs. Expecting to get all your needs met from one person is not realistic or reasonable. Understanding this concept can make a big difference in your life.

It is a fact in life — people will irritate us. We have the choice of interacting with them or not. If we choose to have them in our lives, it is helpful to remember they are not perfect. Sooner or later, they will disappoint us. We will disappoint them. It happens without our intent. Who do you hold to a certain expectation? What expectations do you have with this person? Write down five.

As human beings we make mistakes. This person would not be in your life if you hadn’t been attracted to their good qualities and characteristics. Take time and focus on their good qualities. What were they? Write down ten.

If we don’t deal with our disappointments, they turns into resentment. Overcome disappointment by focusing on what is working in your life. Replace disappointment and resentment with forgiveness — for yourself and your friend, partner or coworker. Remember we all have our quirks and habits. Deep down we all just want to do what is right and be a good person. Focus on the good and you will draw out that good in others.