Relationship Rules

Our personality is what makes us who we are—unique.  At any time, we are either contributing to our personality, or our character, either positively or negatively.  Positively contributing to our personality may be paying attention to our personal growth, nourishing our spiritual relationship, or being a positive role model for others.

When we are under stress, we are donating our precious time and energy to something that will never serve us. Our thoughts contaminate our mind telling us we are not good enough, not deserving.  Our body doesn’t feel like moving much. We miss out on the opportunity to be happy and to make other happy. Our attention and focus are debilitating, rather than liberating.

What do you want for your life? Are you building your character?  Are you encouraging others? Are you giving of yourself as only you can?  Don’t blame your circumstances, change them.  Don’t blame your partner, change your attitude.  Don’t beat yourself up, change your mindset.  As a wise person said, “It is not our circumstances that make us miserable, it is our thoughts about our circumstances.”

Declare who you are and who you will be — I am successful, kind, loving, strong, giving, safe, loved, healthy, and wise.  Use the words that feel the best for you. Say them out loud. Say them in front of the mirror.  Say them boldly and with passion.  Your reality is determined by your thoughts and words.  Choose them wisely.

There is a plan for each and every one of us. We are not randomly put here in this place at this time to just exist. We have many purposes for being here. We have much to experience and an unlimited potential to grow and expand.

Sometimes it may feel like we are just existing, just going through the motions, doing what we need to do, have to do, and ignoring the things we want to do. Even at those times, there is a divine plan at work in our lives. Knowing this, we can relax and give up feeling the need to be in control.

The best way to alieviate stress is to do something nice for someone. Pay an unexpected compliment, thank someone for their efforts, give something away. Your kind words or a hug can make such a difference in someone’s life. Our giving is reciprocal, and to the degree that it affects another, it affects us too.

As you go through your day, be aware of divine timing. Acknowledge it. Don’t discount it as just a coincidence. Let it confirm for you that all things happen in their own time and in their own way, and many times better than we could have ever imagined.